Let me just say- we all have an ‘A’ game. You know, that image or persona, we project to others about ourselves when we feel the need to impress. We’ve all done it- and many continue to still! For example, we bring our ‘A’ game to a job interview; we bring our ‘A’ game for that first date, or when we meet our “to be” in-laws for the first time! But, I’m not talking specifically about that, I’m referring to our ‘A’ game when we attend Sunday worship or small groups.
Nobody (sorry for the generalization), specifically portrays their ‘B’ game, or true self, at first. Or even over time. We strive to look good, not seem unintelligent or ignorant, and try to seem like those around us at that moment. This is damaging. So damaging, the church (the people), are given the image of hypocrites. Many people act one way during the week, then differently for Sunday worship, or at the small group they attend. People notice the differences.
God has created everyone unique. You are His creation! Embrace that uniqueness! Embrace it so much that your ‘B’ game is actually your ‘A’ game. In fact, don’t have an ‘A’ or ‘B’ game, just be yourself. Why am I writing about this? Let me briefly explain.
In our life groups, we see all types of people. Some are shy, some are outspoken, some are serious or funny, but all come to these life groups with their ‘A’ game. They don’t want to seem uneducated or misinformed. They want to seem like they have answers for all the questions. Here’s the truth. Our life groups really don’t soar in conversation until everyone lets their guard down. Until everyone learns to become vulnerable in learning, free to ask questions (yes, even if the question makes them seem uneducated). We don’t judge. In fact, if whatever the question being asked helps a person grow in their faith, we don’t care what it is!
Small groups can be hard. They can also be exciting, fun, and educational- all at the same time! When we get rid of our ‘A’ game mentality, and start being open and honest about ourselves, true growth happens. And often, open honesty inspires openness and honesty amongst others, which creates an atmosphere of community acceptance and learning.
If we live the way Jesus instructed us to live in the Bible (and yes, I’ll encourage you to research that!), we’ll see the need to only have one way to live—as the true representation of Him! When we start by being real with others, others will start being real with us. As important as this is for all of us, it is also very important for those leading. We represent our Lord and Saviour, let’s do it as accurately as possible!
From time to time, Rev D posts random thoughts about life as a Pastor and Servant of Christ. He has a unique perspective. Blog entries are posted randomly.